Question: My girlfriend’s company is just a shark company, but her girlfriend is like a demon. She works overtime until late at night every day for some stupid things. She also complained that it is annoying to work overtime often, but if I ask her to change companies or me, she will She also said that she would change companies sooner or later, but I just asked her to change companies in advance and let her make a choice. She said she didn't want to choose either company, and I said if she didn't choose, then they would switch to me by default. Then she got angry, was I wrong?
My girlfriend’s company often works overtime and it’s very annoying. She is asked to change but doesn’t change. What should I do?
Answer: First of all, your cognition is not the same as her cognition, and it also replaces it. beyond her understanding. My arsenic is his honey. Maybe she is complaining to you on the surface, but she is actually reluctant to part with this job?
Secondly, you can’t just look at things on the surface. You have to analyze why she doesn’t want to change companies.
For example, there are male colleagues in the company with whom she can get along well, for example, the free lunch at noon is delicious and she likes it, for example, the geographical location is her favorite, for example, she can achieve what she dreams of in this company. Self-worth... She even likes the floor tiles in the company bathroom and is happy to step on them every day. This may also be her reason.
Although the above reasons may seem nonsensical to you, they may seem reasonable to her. Moreover, the current general environment is not very good, and it is unrealistic to just change at the drop of a hat. You can feel this yourself.
And she doesn’t want to change companies, at least not yet. Even if you were her boyfriend, I would think you are too lenient. Does it matter to you whether she changes companies or not? Do you think her low income is dragging you down? Or is the company too far away and she requires you to pick her up every day? Are you tired of it? Or is she always working overtime and unable to accompany you? I think if it hadn't infringed on your personal interests, you wouldn't be so indignant.
To love someone is to hope that they can do what they like (not break the law or commit crimes, not to harm others or themselves), and hope that they will be sincerely happy and satisfied, and then the two of them will support each other and grow together.
If you think her company is not good, you can explain the facts to her and weigh the pros and cons. But what she chooses after listening is her business. The stupidest thing is to force the other party to choose one of the two. Because the answers are often disappointing, and you're the one who started it all. Sometimes I want to take advantage of the other person, but I don't expect that it will be revealed in the end. It’s not that the other party didn’t choose you, it was you who took the initiative to be eliminated.
So you should first listen to her thoughts as a listener instead of blindly blaming her or threatening her. , let her choose between work and you. To be honest, I think your approach is quite childish and there is no need to hurt your feelings.
