Most of the relationships that break up now are almost caused by the wrong way of getting along, which consumes enthusiasm day after day and slowly accumulates into disappointment. Therefore, if you want to maintain and manage a relationship well without breaking up, you must avoid the wrong way of getting along:
1. One party makes progress, One party stays put
This is the reason why many relationships break up in the end. The reason for this is not that we can't afford to eat, but that we don't have the motivation to eat bread. People who love you will be happy even through hard times with you. When there are problems in many relationships, there is always one party who is standing still and lacks ambition, which makes the other party feel disappointed and then sees more shortcomings in you.
Maybe one time, she meets a man who is better than you. For her, she also knows that both men love her, but remember what was said at the beginning of the article. Whether you like someone in a relationship and whether they are compatible or not are two different things. She may still like you, but there is no other boy suitable for her, so you break up.
But if you break up for this reason, don’t be stupid enough to think that you are not as rich as the other man. The problem is not that you don’t have money now, but that you didn’t show it to your girlfriend during this relationship. Your ambition to "eat bread", and the fact that this problem occurred more than once, made her more and more disappointed, and she finally had to give up.
There is a saying that goes like this: Life is already so hard, and I really don’t want love to be so hard too. I also want to be like others, have a sweet and gentle love, find someone I feel comfortable with, and make progress together. Therefore, if you want to prevent a breakup in your relationship, you need to make progress and work together to improve the wrong way of getting along.
2. Over-dependence
A relationship has a passionate period and a dull period. Relationships rarely break up during the passionate love stage, and many breakups occur during the dull period.
Because in the dull period, one party will often still be nostalgic for the passionate love stage, while the novelty of the other party has faded. At this time, it is formed that one party wants more time and space of his own to do what he wants to do. For example, the man wants to set aside time to busy himself with his career. At this time, if the other party is still in the first stage, they will feel left out and ignored, both men and women are the same.
Therefore, this stage is the easiest to break up. At this time, it is most important to adjust the balance of mentality. It’s not that I don’t love you anymore, but that relationships in the dull period have a process, and communication is most needed at this time, instead of increasing your investment, and you must not start a “chasing that is more terrifying than the period of passionate love.” Because of the feelings at this time, it is easy for us to be "fearful of losing, and desire more, and then pay harder."This kind of behavior is more likely to cause the other party to be intolerable and lose the other party completely. Therefore at this stage, we should adjust the status to "your time not only belongs to the other party", you should also have your own life , career, studies and life circle, it will be much better to relax a little
3. Just ask, or just give
These are two extreme performances
In a relationship, some people will only pay attention to their own emotional state, their own grievances, and their own needs all the time, and never think of caring about the other person. This emotional pattern will make the other person feel tired and feel a little uncomfortable with you. Even if you don't understand her, she will want to escape from your love life because she has no freedom and feels more pressure. For example: controlling, possessive, and not looking at emotional issues from the other person's perspective.
And some people, in a relationship, pay full attention to the emotional state of the other person, always give unilaterally, obey without a bottom line to please, and fall into a passive situation. In such a relationship mode, you will fall into endless confusion. When giving, once the other person becomes unhappy, you will go to great lengths to please and obey, trying to use this method to continue the relationship. In fact, such behavior often cannot continue the relationship, but instead accelerates the relationship to break up.
For example: excessive doting, low-profile obedience, and unilateral giving. Such extreme behavior is usually caused by excessive love for the other party. Therefore, you must not lose yourself in love, and do not let love become a burden and pressure. Finally, here is a quote from a writer: "What really drives love is not strong love, but trivial time"