In fact, the knowledge point shared with you today is not only applicable to couples, but also to lovers. Believe me, your relationship will definitely get better and better if you use this method, so follow me Let’s take a look at how couples communicate with each other.
I don’t know if you have experienced such a scene. Two people obviously want to communicate, but they start to argue while talking. This often happens It has to do with how we communicate.
What I want to share with you today is: when communicating, we must learn to use feedback instead of criticism.
Why should we replace criticism with feedback? Because criticism will only make the other party feel uncomfortable, easily arouse the other party's defense, and increase the harm.
Feedback is like looking in the mirror, allowing the other person to see his or her behavior from a different perspective and help him or her improve.
Examples:
Criticism (miscommunication)
Wife: What do you think of this dish?
Husband: A little It has no taste, you are really bad at cooking.
Feedback (correct communication method)
Wife: What do you think of this dish?
Husband: It’s a bit bland, and it will taste better if you add some salt. , but no matter what, thank you for taking the time to cook.
Comment: Of these two examples, the former husband may have good intentions, but due to inappropriate wording, it sounds like he is criticizing the other person. Or belittle the other party, which is likely to make the wife angry.
However, my husband’s answer later only provided specific and positive opinions on the saltiness of the dishes, and there was no general personal attack. At the end, he also expressed his gratitude very skillfully.
It is conceivable that after hearing the previous exchange, my wife may be greatly frustrated and no longer wants to cook. However, the following sentences may become more and more energetic and her craftsmanship will get better and better. Because there is feedback and there is gratitude.
Correct feedback in marriage can enhance mutual understanding and strengthen tacit understanding. The other party's weaknesses are only temporary deviations, not personality defects like criticism.
So have you learned it? Once you learn it, apply it in your life. I believe your relationship will get better and better, come on!
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