I don’t think I need to say anything more. Everyone knows very well that relationships need to be maintained. If you only rely on the initial heartbeat, it will be difficult for the relationship to last. Then the question is, what should you do when maintaining an intimate relationship? What should you pay attention to? Today, the editor will bring you the key points of maintaining an intimate relationship. Let’s take a look.
First of all, I would like to ask you a question, in an intimate relationship, do you dare to have a temper?
The reason why I ask this question is because I found that many friends choose "tolerance" most of the time when maintaining close relationships.
Because in the traditional view, boys should give way to girls. This view is deeply rooted in our hearts.
But what I want to say is that close relationships cannot be maintained by tolerance. Those who do not actively express their anger will release their anger in a "passive" way.
This is "passive attack" (I didn't do anything, I didn't let you feel that I was actively hurting you, but I still have ways to make you unhappy and painful...)
Common, such as:
Some people don’t say they are dissatisfied with their partners on the surface, but they express their anger by procrastinating on things and choosing things that are intolerable to you... to express their anger;< /p>
There are also some people who dare not express their anger towards their parents on the surface, but will secretly mess up things assigned by their parents and repeat the same mistakes. and other ways to vent their attacks.
If in a relationship, both parties are unable to communicate anger directly and express dissatisfaction truthfully, the relationship will become worse and worse.
Because those dissatisfactions that cannot be expressed will turn into various passive-aggressive ways, and they will beat around the bush to make others uncomfortable, and also make themselves uncomfortable.
Therefore, don’t think that being together will be safe just because the other person has a good temper and is not aggressive towards you.
Because those "passive attacks" that do not express are internal injuries.
So I never expect to be around someone who never expresses anger, and I also hope that we ourselves will not be such a person.
Encourage each other.
