Long-distance relationships are not easy to begin with. Because they are in different places, it is easy for them to cause some conflicts and problems that cannot be dealt with in time. There is also a theory that long-distance relationships have a dangerous period of three months, which is also bad news that long-distance relationships cannot last. After all, How should we avoid breaking up after three months in another place?
1. What is the reason for the three-month danger period of long-distance relationships
1. Neither party accepts it No compromise in a long-distance relationship
Maybe lovers who have just started a long-distance relationship will find it very sweet to have someone who cares about them far away, and thinking about it is a comfort to their hearts. But as the time of long-distance relationship goes by, three months is a time point. During this three-month period of long-distance relationship, they have seen the sweet life of the lovers around them. Even though they are in love, the other party cannot be by their side. . Even if you want to end the long-distance relationship at this time, the objective conditions may not allow it, and both parties are unwilling to give in, so it is easy to cause quarrels and conflicts. The already unstable long-distance relationship will become more and more quarrelsome, until there is nothing at all. When the relationship breaks out, it's natural to break up.
2. Disputes arose over the direction of future planning
Maybe when the long-distance relationship first started, the subsequent development and planning issues were not considered, but as the long-distance relationship developed, Naturally we have to consider these aspects. Three months into the long-distance relationship, both parties have their own plans for the future. One person may feel that the long-distance relationship should end as soon as possible and live and work together earlier; but the other person feels that they should struggle first, and only after struggling can they have financial strength. Planning for the future, just like this, no one wants to back down, and they don't give in to each other, so it's easy to fall out.
3. Problems existed before we got together
It is not only easy to occur in long-distance relationships for three months Question, three months of dating is also a turning point for many couples in the same city. Because two people getting together is a process of getting along. If they get along well, they can be together. If they don't get along well, they can only say goodbye. Maybe couples in a long-distance relationship will have many problems soon after they get together. Three months of long-distance relationship is just the time when conflicts increase, so the breakup has already been foreshadowed.
2. How to avoid breaking up in a long-distance relationship
1. End the long-distance relationship as soon as possible
If you have a conflict just because of who goes to the other person’s place, this The problem seems to be easy to solve, all you need to do is go to her side, but the sequelae are very serious: are you really sure you won't regret it? Because the environment you are going to is unknown to you, and you have not prepared to go there before, so the first few days may be very uncomfortable and you will have great negative emotions. And this negative emotion may cause you to break up again.
2. Compromise on future plans
For example, a girl wants to take the postgraduate entrance examination, but you have to work, and she wants to study in college in the future. After staying in the city for a few years, you will return to your hometown, and you plan to settle here. In this case, you need to find what you have in common: for example, she is taking the postgraduate entrance examination to improve her competitiveness, and you are working to receive training early. Your actual goals are essentially the same, so you can discuss this relationship. Spend time working together. If you think your unit is good, recommend her for an internship. If she thinks your work needs recharging, she can help you prepare for the on-the-job graduate exam. Wouldn't it be nice to compromise with each other like this?
In fact, no matter whether it is a long-distance relationship or not, whether you have been in love for three months or not, you must first analyze which are the real important culprits that caused the breakup, which reasons are irreconcilable between you, and which reasons are yours. We still have the ability to solve it, so that we will have a clear response idea.
