What to do when your girlfriend quarrels with you
1. Calm down
When your girlfriend quarrels with you, the first thing to do is to calm down. Don't be swayed by your emotions, or you may act impulsively, further exacerbating the dispute. Find a quiet place, take a few deep breaths, and calm yourself down.
2. Listen to her point of view
After calming down, it is very important to listen to your girlfriend’s point of view of. Give her a chance to express her thoughts and feelings and listen carefully to what she has to say. Don't interrupt her or try to argue or explain. Only by listening can you better understand her position and emotions.
3. Express your own point of view
After listening to your girlfriend’s point of view, it is your turn to express your own point of view. But pay attention to approach and tone. Avoid using offensive words or blaming the other person. Instead, express yourself in gentle and candid terms, and try to avoid getting emotional.
4. Find common ground
In quarrels, there are often some common points. Look for these commonalities and use them as a basis for communication. By emphasizing commonalities, you can build a connection with your girlfriend and increase mutual understanding and trust.
5. Find a solution
The purpose of an argument is not to win the argument, but to solve the problem . So after an argument, try to find a solution. Discuss possible solutions and try to reach consensus. If you can't find a solution immediately, you can also stop temporarily and give each other some time to think calmly.
6. Apologize and forgive
If you realize you did something wrong during an argument, don’t hesitate to apologize. Admitting your mistakes and apologizing to your girlfriend is an important step in repairing your relationship. At the same time, we must also learn to forgive each other's mistakes. Only through apology and forgiveness can you move on.
7. Learn and grow
Every argument is an opportunity to learn and grow. Review the reasons and process of the quarrel, and think about your own actions and reactions. Learn from it and work on improving your communication and handling of problems. Through this process, your relationship will become stronger.
When your girlfriend fights with you, calming down, listening to her point of view, expressing your own, finding common ground, finding solutions, apologizing and forgiving, and learning and growing are important steps. Through positive communication and understanding, you can overcome the obstacles of arguments and build a healthier and more stable relationship.
