Although boys should not restrict the contact between their girlfriends and friends of the opposite sex after they fall in love, if their girlfriends do not refuse the opposite sex’s WeChat messages, boys will still be a little worried. I worry about whether the friends of the opposite sex whom my girlfriend adds have little intentions for her, and whether my girlfriend will chat with other members of the opposite sex behind my back, but it doesn’t seem good to restrict my girlfriend from adding friends of the opposite sex. Now let’s talk about my girlfriend who doesn’t reject the opposite sex and adds WeChat to tell me that I’m not feeling well.
1. Reasons why girlfriends don’t reject members of the opposite sex on WeChat
Everything has two sides. In fact, in many cases, girlfriends who don’t reject members of the opposite sex and use WeChat may not be the sexy chat you think. Or there may be an impure purpose, but the girlfriend needs to use WeChat to communicate with the opposite sex because of work matters, or an old classmate who has not been in contact with the girlfriend for many years adds WeChat and wants to consult about something, or it is just a pure friend who adds WeChat. , you may just be thinking too much. There are also some girls who just don’t know how to say no. When someone adds someone on WeChat, she subconsciously approves. Sometimes trusting your girlfriend is also a sign of respect for her, and your girlfriend has told you, which also proves that she wants to reassure you and hopes that you can trust her.
Of course, if you find out that your girlfriend is chatting sexually after adding someone of the opposite sex on WeChat, then you should talk to her, express your inner feelings, and understand your girlfriend’s true inner thoughts. If she loves you, she will naturally pay attention to this problem. If she doesn't really love you, then you can choose to leave.
If you can add it, she thinks it's normal. Except for one of her best friends, she usually has friends of the opposite sex, so she spends all day chatting with the opposite sex. After we confirmed our relationship, she did not reduce her contact with the opposite sex. She would also add the opposite sex on WeChat and did not know how to refuse. I hinted at her, but she did not tease me at all. I've been worrying about this all day, and I can't calm down even if I do anything. Finally I couldn't help it anymore and went to talk to her. After talking about this issue with her, she told me the truth - that is, she didn't like me much at all, and she would leave me when she met someone better, so I chose to leave!
2. Give your girlfriend suggestions for the opposite sex to add WeChat messages
When you understand that your girlfriend does not refuse the opposite sex to add WeChat messages, as a boyfriend, you should also give your girlfriend some suggestions. Let her learn to change, but there must be a prerequisite, that is, you understand her, a boyfriend who teaches her that she should refuse invitations from the opposite sex, and a boyfriend who says to her, "It's okay, you can go if you want." She is considering I think it's obvious which one has more weight when it comes to accepting invitations from other members of the opposite sex. On the basis of establishing understanding, you can gently point out the irrationality of certain issues and let her think for herself. This is fundamentally different from educating her on what she should do.
If your girlfriendIf you really can’t refuse the opposite sex to add WeChat, that’s okay. Ask your girlfriend to give you her phone and ask you to reply (for situations where the opposite sex is entangled, there is no need to interfere like this in normal communication). But two people must first trust each other and be honest with each other, and nothing will happen. So trust your girlfriend and be honest with her. If she encounters something annoying that she can't answer, just say no for her. Don't worry about the rest.
My girlfriend told me that it is not necessarily a bad thing if she does not refuse the opposite sex to add WeChat. If it is handled well, it can be strengthened. The level of trust between you, of course, if you have begun to doubt your girlfriend, then your relationship may be in crisis.
