Question: I proposed an engagement to my girlfriend, but was firmly rejected every time. She told me that it was too early, and I wanted to know what she was thinking. She once said that she would not have sex until she was married. I had been dating for a long time and then we lived together for a while. At the beginning of this year, we separated due to work, but we were still in the same city. We have been together for almost 2 years. Is it too early to get engaged after 2 years?
Answer: You have to understand the real reason why your friend said it was too early to get engaged, and then solve the problem based on the actual situation.
1. Reasons why your girlfriend thinks it is too early to get engaged
The reason why your girlfriend thinks it is too early to get engaged may be due to the following reasons:
One is that you are both relatively young, and she feels that she is not yet old enough to get married (the concept is different now, many people get married before they are 26) Marriage is regarded as early marriage in the eyes of many people, especially for highly educated people, after all, they are in their 20s after graduating from college);
The other is financial reasons, maybe if you get engaged now Your family can't come up with money, and you yourself have only just started working and have no savings, etc. Your girlfriend will feel that she doesn't feel safe if she gets engaged now, or because of the current trend of comparison about engagement, you can't meet her requirements. , she wants you to try harder.
Another way is that your girlfriend feels that she is currently on the rise in her career. If she gets engaged, she will face marriage, and if she gets married, she will face problems such as having children. She will not consider it at this stage for the time being. child.
The last possibility is also very high, that is, she is more cautious about marriage and wants to get along with you for a year and a half longer before making a decision. After all, you can live apart in the same city, but what if you get married? What's the use of you if you can't be there as soon as possible if something happens? This should be what your girlfriend really thinks, and she feels insecure. Why did you get married? Why did she get married? Think about it for a moment, brother.
2. What should you do if your girlfriend thinks it’s too early to get engaged?
I believe you may have also thought about whether your girlfriend is using you as a backup to keep your colleagues in the loop. I don’t want to get engaged to you. This is actually quite ridiculous and exposes my diaosi mentality. Because judging from your description, although your girlfriend said she would not have sex without getting married, she still compromised and lived together after you spent a while, and you did not find any signs that your girlfriend was having an affair with someone else, so This assumption does not hold.
In this case, I suggest you ask your girlfriend what her plans are for the future and why she doesn’t want to get engaged now , are you dissatisfied with yourself or the time of the engagement? You are already in a cohabitation relationship, so there is nothing you can't ask. Only when you understand the reason and dispel your girlfriend's concerns, will she be able to be with you with confidence.Get engaged instead of worrying that she will regret it later.
