Before meeting your current girlfriend, both you and your girlfriend have their own pasts. Some boys can accept their girlfriend’s past and even regret that they didn’t meet her earlier to make her suffer less. They blame themselves for being hurt; and some boys marvel at their girlfriend’s past and find it difficult to accept it. What should they do at this time?
1. Look at your girlfriend’s attitude towards the past
Everyone has their own past, it’s not a big deal. The fundamental reason why many boys cannot accept their girlfriend’s past is still It lies in the girlfriend's attitude towards the past. If your girlfriend has a chaotic past, it is because she has no bottom line and principles, because she was ravaged and despised without realizing it, and because she does not love herself. So, no matter how much you and your girlfriend love each other now, there will be an invisible bomb buried in your heart: what you mind is not your girlfriend's "chaotic past", what you really mind is "the girlfriend you love and respect so much" , but may have been arbitrarily bullied and ravaged by other boys in the past." This kind of frustration. And if your girlfriend is someone who dares to love and hate, and the past and present are clearly separated, and she forgets the past and starts over with you, then there is no need for you to hold on to your girlfriend's past.
2. See if your girlfriend really loves you
Maybe your girlfriend has been before you If you have deep feelings for others, even after being with you, you will still wonder if she still loves her ex, but you love her very much and you can't accept that she still loves someone else when she is with you. This is normal. But while you are in pain, you have time to feel whether your girlfriend really loves you. If you love her very much, you can also feel how much she loves you. In this case, the so-called inability to accept your girlfriend's past means that you love her so much that you cannot accept that she met other people before you, showed her sincerity to other people, and was entangled and affectionate with others before you.
None of us are so lucky to meet the love of our lives for the first time. I believe that if we could choose, we would all hope to meet the right person sooner. But without those past, can we really hold hands with the right person for a lifetime?
3. Depend on what you can’t accept
If you already know your girlfriend’s past , and if you take it seriously, the answer is that there is no solution. You two can only separate, and the sooner the better. Although the "past" cannot be equated with cheating, the actual negative impact on the relationship is similar. For example, once you two quarrel, you will open up "old scores". You can't help it, and she won't be able to bear it if this continues for a long time.
If you don’t know your girlfriend’s past but want to know, then I advise you, absolutely do not ask. One of the secrets to a harmonious relationship between two people is to not ask about each other's past at all after they get together. Can curiosity be suppressed, but it is difficult to suppress the negative emotions caused by knowing about the bad past. Simply think of asking about the other person’s past habits as taking drugs. It’s good if you don’t take it, but it will be troublesome if you do.
Now In this open age, it is normal for a girlfriend to have a past. The key is to see if she is a good girl worthy of your serious treatment. Secondly, whether she is holding on to her past is not good for you or her.
