Men and women are essentially two different animals. Therefore, if a couple has been together for a long time, friction is inevitable and quarrels are also normal. Occasional quarrels can actually enhance their relationship. , but if you always quarrel, you need to pay attention. This may cause rifts in your relationship. So what should you do if couples always quarrel? Here are 3 ways to avoid quarrels.
1. Think about the problem from the other party’s perspective
We said it at the beginning Men and women are two completely different animals with different ways of thinking, so many times you feel that your wife's unreasonable and unruly behavior is actually a sign that she wants you to pay attention to her. Therefore, you can try your best to think about the problem from the other party's perspective and consider whether there is anything you have not done well recently.
After a quarrel, don’t use perfunctory behavior to comfort the other person, because what a woman wants is never an apology, but your attitude. If we think about the problem from the other person’s perspective, it will be easier to understand. Why does she have emotions? When we understand some of the behaviors of others, we will not be controlled by emotions, which is good for ourselves.
For example, if your wife says she won’t let you play games, and you say it’s okay to play games, then is the problem the game?
< p> When you think about the problem from her perspective, you will find that girls are not only concerned about games, but want your company or your ambition, so we show care and love to our wives or engage in Self-examination will make her feel more gratified and happy than you swearing not to play games in the future.2. Change your own way of thinking
Everyone tries to change others and become what they imagine. Looks like this, but you will find that no one will accept this method. This is a typical "male chauvinism" that wants your wife to follow her own ideas, but if you can change your thinking,
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Don't think about changing the other person but changing yourself. You will find that there will be unexpected gains, because the person who changes first is the strong one. When you improve your emotional intelligence and know how to deal with a relationship, you may also have feelings for others. The confidence to let go of a relationship easily is a manifestation of one's strong sense of value. You don't lack people to like you, you have scarcity. It will boost your self-confidence.
3. Understand each other’s emotional needs
Disagreement in marriage is common. After all, everyone is made up of It is impossible for independent-thinking animals to have the same opinions on everything, and many times, behind the so-called disagreements, it is actually the wife who expresses them.Express your own emotional needs and hope that in this way, you can get the other person's love and care for you.
The book "Intimacy" once said that when the inner emotional needs are not met, resentment will arise and the relationship will become increasingly alienated.
Over time, you will suffer from marital aphasia. You will not talk when you get home from get off work, and you will spend less than 10 minutes chatting every day. You would rather scroll through your phone and have a lively chat with others on WeChat than talk to your lover about what’s on your mind.
A healthy marriage relationship should be, I understand you, and understand that you want to get more attention and love through this kind of quarrel. It is a tacit understanding of "the word is in the word and the two hearts know it".
In marriage, you must always know that what maintains a relationship is not how rich you are, how handsome you are, or how high your status is, but your character and emotional intelligence. Only if you have a good character and a high emotional intelligence, can you get along well. The process will become harmonious and the relationship between you will be more harmonious.