Maybe you will also face a choice in your relationship. The person you like is not suitable for marriage, and you don't like the person who is suitable for marriage. It's great to be able to meet someone you like and is suitable for you, but not everyone is so lucky. If you happen to be that unfortunate person. So which one is more important, like or suitability? The following is an analysis of the answer for you, and I would like to give this to those who are facing a choice.
1. The feeling of liking may dissipate
When I was a teenager, I liked a girl in my class. She is a dancer, with a tight waist, white and tender skin, big and round eyes, fingers like green onions, like budding stamens, and her eyes are crooked when she smiles. Almost all the boys in the class were fascinated by it, and I was no exception.
When you hear her voice, your heart will surge, and when you see her smile, you will have wild thoughts. I had a crush on her for a year, but I was worried that it would affect my studies, so I almost didn't talk to her on purpose, and I just glanced at her a few times unconsciously. Being emotionally affected by someone is very painful, but it can also be very happy.
As a result, one night, she gave me a note and quickly turned around and left. I was very excited, as if I had guessed something, and when I couldn't wait to open the note, it turned out that she was writing about her good feelings for me. This kind of love can be said to be very strong and unforgettable!
In your opinion, falling in love and getting married with someone who can bring you such strong liking must be the happiest thing in life and the right choice. No, it didn’t take long for my liking to become boring, and all my previous likings were gone. It's like I've never been obsessed with her.
Let’s fall in love in college! Only after you have experienced love and figured out what falling in love is like can you let go of the obsession with "liking".
You know, life is so long, and the partner you choose in your 20s may have to stay together for decades. Even if the thunder in the sky stirs up the fire in the earth and the thunder in the sky seduces the queen mother, it is just the hormones at that moment. Hormones are less reliable than a scumbag who turns his back on others and refuses to recognize others. When it comes and when it disappears, you won't be notified at all.
2. Suitability is more important than liking
Love and marriage are two completely different things. thing. You tell me, what is a marriage without love? Then I also want to tell you that a marriage without love is a real marriage. Marriage is not the grave of love, because even without marriage, love will go to the grave. The essence of marriage is cooperation, when two people face the ups and downs of life together.
After all, life will not stay at 20 years old forever. When you get older and become the mainstay of the family, you find that all your friends are married, and it is difficult to go out for fun. Your colleagues are like It is also difficult for strangers and parents to understand themselves. There is no one around you who can talk to you, no one who can listen to you.
When you get older and your parents leave you, you will become a true lone spot in this world. You have no wife, no children, you have no sustenance, and loneliness will magnify all your pain. When you get old, if you have no money and no one to support you, your life will be miserable.
If you have money, your relatives, your friends, even the nanny who takes care of you, anyone around you will try their best to steal wealth from you, and no one will really care about you.
The biggest function of love is to trick people into marriage. If you can't tolerate the absence of love in marriage, then you are really not suitable for marriage. You are suitable for falling in love first. You might say that if it were so easy to fall in love now, I would have done so long ago, but now I can't even touch the person I love. That means you don’t really understand love yet. Love is not something you have to wait for, but something you can fight for.
How to fight for it? It's very simple, ask yourself a few questions: What kind of boys are easiest for girls to like? How to improve your inner appearance and appearance? If you have a crush on a blind date, how should you continue to pursue a girl? How can I break the ice when I usually have nothing to talk about? And what details should we look for? If you don’t know, then learn it, research it, ask your best friends, ask your friends, or read a book yourself.
