Although husband and wife are the closest people, there are still things that couples cannot say, so you should not say everything to your lover without any hesitation. This is often how we hurt the one who loves us the most. People, today we will discuss how best to get along between husband and wife!
1. Deny the value of the wife
Aren’t you just taking care of a child at home, and you can’t take care of it well?
You eat what I have and spend what I have, so what qualifications do you have to care about me?
I work hard to earn money outside, but you are like a great mother-in-law.
Have you ever paid back a penny on your mortgage and car loan?
This family doesn’t all depend on me.
Analysis:
It is actually very hurtful to say this often. Husbands should know that being a full-time housewife is not about enjoyment, but about sacrifice. Not only should you not belittle Instead, thank her for taking care of the family so that you have no worries. These words may seem innocuous to you, but in fact they are like a dose of morphine that erodes her deeply, causing her to gradually collapse.
2. Refusal to communicate and cold violence
If you think so, I can’t help it.
I told you, but you don’t understand.
My business has nothing to do with you/don’t worry about it.
It’s all my fault, okay.
Forget it, that’s it.
Are you still finished? What else do you want?
Analysis:
Refuse to communicate = cold violence = do not want to reconcile. Any conflict requires communication. Otherwise, it will only accumulate more and more until the final explosion, which will lead to a breakup. Moreover, often saying this kind of thing will make a girl feel that you don't care about her and don't value your relationship, which will amplify the conflict.
3. Bully your wife into marrying far away
This is my home, not yours.
The house is mine, and you have to leave if you want.
If you can, get out and see where you can go?
Take your things and get out.
What is yours in this family?
Analysis:
Marrying far away should not be a bargaining chip for you to hurt her, but it should make you love her more. The reason is because she gave up too much for you, so you can't say that anyway. Don't let her regret marrying far away, and don't let yourself become an irresponsible man.
Things that boys and girls should never say:
1. Break up & divorce easily
Divorce/break up, I can’t live this life anymore.
If you can pass it, pass it, if you can’t pass it, you’ll fall down/Can’tJust leave.
If it weren’t for the child, I would have divorced you long ago.
Divorce, who shoots whom?
Analysis:
Once you talk about divorce/breakup, it is a rift that can never be repaired, because the other person thinks you are I have already thought so, no matter what, we will be separated sooner or later.
2. Deny your marriage
I am really blind to marry you.
If it weren’t for XX, I wouldn’t marry you.
You are far worse than XX. If you had known earlier, you might as well have married him/her.
Analysis:
Once such words are spoken, it is equivalent to directly giving your marriage a death sentence. Attributing all problems to the fact that you should not marry the other party is equivalent to denying the other party. It hurts more than just saying divorce/breakup.
3. Deny your feelings
We have different views/we are not the same kind of people.
You don’t understand me at all.
Actually, I have never liked you.
I no longer love you.
It’s really boring to be with you.
Why did I blindly fall in love with you in the first place?
You have changed, but I still like you as you were before.
What is the meaning of being together? I will be even more disappointed with this relationship. Since you have chosen the other person, you must like the other person. No matter how angry you are, don't say such hurtful words.
4. Negate the other person & compare with others
You are not as good as my ex-boyfriend/girlfriend.
What contribution have you made to this family?
Look at XX, and then look at you.
How come you are inferior to others?
And you are too bad/you are too stupid.
I never thought you would be such a person.
Analysis:
This is the so-called PUA. This kind of relationship will only get worse and worse. No one wants to be denied. Couples and husbands need to praise each other frequently. , even if there is something wrong, we should discuss the matter as it is, instead of saying bad words, pulling each other down and belittling each other.
After reading the editor’s article on how to get along best between husband and wife, everyone must have gained some insights. From now on, if there is any problem, change it, and if there is no problem, let’s crown it!
