Question: I have been with my girlfriend for more than two years, and it’s time to talk about marriage. Everything was calm at first, but recently my mother came to me to discuss buying her a house (after her parents divorced, my mother had been renting). She already had half of the down payment on hand, so I wanted to help with the rest. After learning about it, several old friends also offered to lend money. Then yesterday, after drinking too much, I asked my girlfriend (she had some savings), but she rejected her on the spot. Then she had a conflict with me, thinking that I shouldn't talk to her. She thought that if I loved her, I wouldn't talk to her. Open your mouth, so is it that I don’t love her or that she doesn’t love me?
Is it appropriate to ask your girlfriend to borrow money?
Answer: If you are really in urgent need of money, you can actually borrow money from your girlfriend, provided that your relationship is really deep. But buying a house is actually not a matter of urgency. You can wait for a while to raise enough money and then buy it again. Even if you have borrowed enough money now, you still have to pay it back. You have to pay the monthly payment every month, and the repayment of the money will be even slower, so it makes sense for your girlfriend not to borrow it.
In addition, you said that you have reached the point of talking about marriage. Getting married definitely requires money. Has your girlfriend asked you to buy a house or a car? You haven't explained any of this. It can only be said that you have a lot of money to spend on your wedding. If you ask your girlfriend to borrow money at this time, it seems that you have no plans for your future life at all. You may not even prepare before the wedding. . Moreover, you borrowed money to buy a house for your mother, not for you, so your girlfriend is very concerned about it. You really don't treat yourself as an outsider. Even if your girlfriend refuses to borrow money, it's still fine. If you have a more upright personality, she might just break up with you.
From an interpersonal perspective: The last thing a man should do is ask his girlfriend to borrow money. People should not ask their best buddies or best friends to borrow money. Because borrowing debt can easily ruin a good relationship. Many people have said that the most direct way to end the relationship is to borrow money from him/her.
I don’t know what you were thinking when you asked your girlfriend to borrow money. I think men should not take the initiative to ask their girlfriends to borrow money, unless it is a life-threatening matter. Maybe you didn't really ask your girlfriend to borrow the money, you just tested her, but your relationship and feelings haven't reached that point yet, or maybe she doesn't love you enough. Some temptations are best avoided because the consequences may be unbearable.
