Many people are not optimistic about long-distance relationships because of the distance, because they cannot see or touch them, and because they can only find each other through mobile phones, but in fact, long-distance relationships Falling in love is not only bad. Aren't there still so many people who have gone from long-distance relationships to marriage? So don't resist blindly. As long as you learn to manage long-distance relationships, then the problems mentioned above will no longer be a problem. Today let’s take a look at how to maintain a long-distance relationship.
First of all, you must have a core concept. Your breakup was not because of the long distance, but because your emotional level was not enough to handle various emotional problems caused by the long distance.
There is a lot of happiness in a long-distance relationship, including the early days when you are in a long-distance relationship. It is not like it is now. It’s just that you deal with the various problems that occur in the middle as you did when you were together, and then you find that something is wrong. , why is the problem not solved, but getting worse?
Because people’s desires are desires for others, and a desire to get along with each other. Future fantasy composition. Because in a different place, people are not available, and we can only get along with each other through mobile phones, which can only satisfy part of the desire for people and the desire to get along with each other. So the requirements will be higher than usual.
What is the core of a long-distance relationship? Your partner’s excellence and understanding, your excellence, isolating the temptation around her. Well, this girl is far worse than my girlfriend. Don’t look at it. Your understanding fills the vacancy in her heart, making her feel that her efforts are valuable and giving her more motivation.
The main reasons for breaking up in long-distance relationships are:
1. I don’t know what to say and have nothing to share.
2. The insufficient expression ability of both parties leads to misunderstanding.
3. Desires cannot be satisfied and there is no energy to pay, leading to greater dissatisfaction.
Two people in different places need to chat frequently because they want to maintain their relationship, and chatting requires topics, which is a great test of the ability to chat. It’s okay in the early stage, and you can talk about the past. Later, Maybe it’s just good morning and night every day.
To solve this, the first thing is to find your common hobbies, or you can delve into each other's hobbies so that you can have a steady stream of topics.
The second is that you have to enrich your life, go out and build your own circle and friends. Only then can you have a life. , only then can you share.
You can talk about ideals, life, and emotions. Avoid pointing out shortcomings, pouring cold water on them, and arguing about winning or losing.
Especially referring to shortcomings, pouring cold water on them. If you think the other party is wrong, then let her hit the wall. If she's right, then okay, she's fine, if she's wrong, let her take the beating from society. She can be subjected to socialShe can beat her up, but the person who beats her up must not be you! (emphasis added)
You are her safe haven. Not the one who beat her up. If she is wrong, let her make the mistake. In this way, she will become more and more dependent on you.
So, do you still think it is difficult to maintain a long-distance relationship?
Believe in yourself and give the other person more trust, so I believe you can overcome the difficulty of long-distance relationship. , I remember there is a saying that goes like this: "A long-distance relationship is a lifetime" so come on~!
