Nowadays, falling in love and getting married is not just a matter of mutual love. It also requires the consent of the family. For boys, if they have a girlfriend, their family members will generally have a supportive attitude (more monks than monks). Even if their family members disagree, they will find ways to convince their parents. What should I do if my girlfriend’s family doesn’t agree to be together? How can I get my girlfriend's family to agree?
1. Reasons why your girlfriend’s family disagrees
First of all, you and your girlfriend need to figure out why her parents don’t agree with the two of you being together. Generally speaking, the reason why your girlfriend’s family disagrees is because of the following points:
1. You are in a different place, and your girlfriend’s family is reluctant to let her marry so far away in the future. It will not be easy for her to see her daughter in the future;
2. Your financial situation is relatively poor, you have no house, no car, no savings. They think your daughter will suffer if you are with you;
3. Your girlfriend’s family doesn’t know you very well. I feel that you are not very reliable;
4. Your appearance is relatively poor, shorter or fatter;
5. When we first met, you left a message for your girlfriend’s parents The impression I made was not very good...
6. You and your girlfriend met at night. People of the older generation think that online relationships are not reliable.
2. A united front with your girlfriend
Although people who fall in love and get married hope to get the blessings of both families, But essentially you and your girlfriend are living alone. Therefore, when faced with a girlfriend’s family that doesn’t agree to be together, look for the reasons why her girlfriend’s family doesn’t agree, and ask yourself if you can meet their requirements. Don’t be anxious and be prepared for a protracted war. When communicating with your girlfriend, you should be comforting and considerate, and don't let her have any negative emotions. Only in this way will she be happy. As long as you and your girlfriend can continue to present a united front like this, her parents will certainly see it. Their parents have lived for most of their lives, so what do they not know? They also know that there is your shadow in her state, so if you change their attitude bit by bit, it will be effective if you persist.
3. Eliminate the concerns of your girlfriend’s family
In fact, your girlfriend’s family does not agree with you being together. Their starting point is also for the good of their daughters (except for blood-sucking parents), so as long as you can make them feel that they will be happy if you give your daughter to you, then they will have no objection to you being together. What you have to do now is not to be impatient, but to take action and show the other person’s parents that you really care about their daughter and really like their daughter. Your girlfriend can’t just follow her parents’ arrangements. She is also working hard. Let your feelings be accepted. So, buck up, take action, and don’t leave your girlfriend alone.
My family did not agree with me at first, but my boyfriend called me every day and told me everything. While giving me a sense of security, all these things were ignored. My parents see it and will send me gifts during special holidays. He told me everything my parents wanted to know, and asked almost all of his household register, and he had no complaints (of course I'm not suggesting that you ask so many questions during the relationship). He was so sincere that my parents naturally acquiesced in his existence and stopped interfering with us.
What should I do if my girlfriend’s family doesn’t agree to be together? To sum up, both men and women need to work together to convince the woman’s family to accept you. You must know that most of your girlfriend’s family members actually want their daughter to be happy. As long as they think you are trustworthy and love your girlfriend in their hearts, then what position do they have to disagree with you being together?
