Question:
I am relatively short, only 165cm tall, while my girlfriend is 168cm tall. For this reason, my girlfriend’s family has always disagreed. And my girlfriend thinks I am a good person, so she doesn’t mind my height. I have always been grateful and have always been nice to her.
Now we have reached the stage of discussing marriage, and then the parents of both parties met, and my girlfriend’s parents requested that my girlfriend’s name be added to the house book. Because I bought my house before we got married, I paid a down payment of 800,000 and repaid the loan for 15 years. I wrote my and my parents’ names. At that time, I proposed to add names, and my family agreed. However, my girlfriend’s family wanted to have only two of our names on the house. My parents disagreed, and it was very difficult for me to be caught in the middle.
Later, my parents agreed that the house would only be in my and her names, but my girlfriend’s parents made another request: 1. All my salary would be handed over after marriage, and all the house loans would be borne by my parents. 2. The selection of decoration materials and decoration matters are decided by her family. My family is responsible for the expenses. The attitude of my parents is that of her family, which is impossible.
Now my girlfriend and I still want to be together, but our parents no longer want to be together and we are about to break up. What should we do?
What should I do if my girlfriend asks for a name on the house?
Answer:
In fact, if you simply add your girlfriend’s name to the house, it is equivalent to your family making a down payment, and then the couple will repay the loan together. To be honest, in this situation, even though the amount of money paid by both parties is not equal, many people will compromise for the sake of their feelings. There are still reasons to talk about and things to talk about.
But later on, your girlfriend’s family made two requests, that is, they have no plans to get married at all.
Her family has now made several demands:
1. All my salary will be handed over after marriage, and all the house loans will be borne by my parents.
2. The selection of decoration materials and decoration matters are decided by her family, and my family is responsible for the funds.
I won’t go into details about being a slave like turning in wages. If you do, you will definitely not have a good life in the future. Your parents will pay the entire mortgage, and your parents will pay the entire down payment. Then where did they get the nerve to mention your girlfriend’s name? Her family will decide on the decoration, and your family will pay for it. Have you never heard of equality of power and responsibility?
In fact, there are many examples of your situation around me. Either the two families make a joint down payment and repay the loan together, and the house is in two names.
Either the man makes a down payment and the woman buys a car and decorates it, and the house is in two names. If your down payment of 800,000 yuan is worth the emotional premium, many people may not tolerate it. As a result, the other party later wanted to take all the money even for the loan repayment and decoration. You still have to hand over your salary to see how others look at you.
To put it bluntly, the following requirements are because your girlfriend’s family doesn’t want you two to get married at all and they made them disgusting to you. If you can agree to this condition, you are really being treated unfairly.
As for you saying that your girlfriend doesn’t mind that you are short and thinks you are a nice person, it is unclear whether there is any discount here. This is the final suggestion. Whether you adopt it or not is up to you.
