When a couple quarrels, both parties are actually in an irrational stage, especially the woman. Therefore, as a man’s husband, you must stay rational. Some words will hurt others even if you reconcile in the end. Stay in your wife's heart and affect the relationship between you. Below I will share with you what the husband should not say when a couple is quarreling. If you say it, it will add fuel to the fire. Otherwise, if your wife runs away, don't come to me.
What your husband should not say when a couple quarrels
1. Wait until you calm down before talking
Many men think that when a couple quarrels, both parties are irrational, so why What if we don't wait until each other comes to their senses? I can only say that it is a good idea, but if you really let your wife calm down alone, she may have a big drama in her head, and she may do more irrational things. So don't expect your wife to calm down alone. At this time, you can just coax her and give her a step to reconcile.
2. Look at your shrewishness
Although my wife does act like a shrew when we quarrel, you Never say it so bluntly. After all, no matter what, your wife is the person you want to spend your life with. If you belittle her, you are belittling yourself, and it will also hurt your wife invisibly. Don't do things that harm others and do not benefit yourself.
3. I told you so
We all like to be wise in hindsight. If you only say "I told you so" to your wife after a problem occurs, In fact, your wife may also blame herself, and she also wants to do things well, but if you say this, not only will you not be able to comfort her, but it will make her feel that you don't understand her enough. Moreover, your words are a bit sarcastic. It is better to find a way to solve the problem instead of just saying nothing.
4. Stop nagging
Even if you think your wife is nagging and it annoys you, never say "stop nagging" to your wife. In fact, sometimes it’s okay to quarrel and talk about solving the problem, but the fear is that your wife has encountered a problem and is holding it in her heart. When the problem arises, you won’t know it and you can’t find a way to solve it. That’s when it’s really bad.
5. Look, my brother’s daughter-in-law won’t be like you
The most fearful thing in relationships It’s just comparison, and there’s no need to compare your love life to others. This will not only make your wife feel frustrated, but will also make your wife unwilling to deal with your buddy's wife in the future.
6. That’s it for me, what else do you want to do?
Women are not actually afraid that their husbands are not in good condition, but they are afraid that their husbands are obviously flawed but unwilling to change. Your sentence "That's it for me, what else do you want to do?" can easily become the straw that breaks your wife's nerves.
Finally, when a husband and wife quarrel, the husband should not say anythingThat’s all for the introduction. I hope men will never say anything hurtful to their wives just because of their quick words, and maintain family harmony.
