Question: I met my girlfriend after graduating from college. She went from junior college to bachelor's degree and has just finished her exam. After I graduated, I changed a lot of jobs. I had a lot of unsatisfactory things in my life. I had told her several times before, but I always felt that she didn’t understand me. Our daily routines were different, and we always felt like we couldn’t talk together. It's very tiring to go to work every day, and I still have to coax her when I get home. Why do I feel like I suddenly don’t like my girlfriend? Is this normal? what to do?
Why do you suddenly not like your girlfriend?
Answer:
Based on your description, I feel that your biggest problem is actually inappropriateness. What you need now is that you need someone to help you share the pressure. I hope your girlfriend can be more sensible and let the two of you face the difficulties in life and work together. And your girlfriend is still studying for exams, so your needs are not being met.
Everyone has different needs, and the needs of each period are different and will change. When you first got together, you weren't facing an internship or job search yet, right? Or isn’t it like now that I’ve changed a lot of jobs, is confused, tired, can’t find my direction, and can’t see the future clearly? You now need someone to comfort you, coax you, enlighten you, help you analyze and solve problems. She obviously couldn't do it.
From what you said, you are already living together, right? So you're embarrassed to break up? You can ask yourself, if you break up and don't have her, will your current anxiety be alleviated? Can the problem you are facing be solved? Will work be smooth sailing? cannot.
But without her, who can only consume you as a burden, you may feel a little more relaxed. Or do you already have someone new who can comfort you and meet your needs? If no such person appears, you don't have to rush to break up. Men are sometimes fragile and need their lover's company and emotional value. Even if she can't solve any of your practical problems, she can help you relieve your stress by saying something to enlighten you.
You are currently immature, and she is even more immature than you. So it should be impossible for you to expect her to help in this regard. On the one hand, you can tell her what is in your heart, hoping that she will understand you, stop consuming you, and make her realize the seriousness of the problem; on the other hand, you can read more books to find answers.
When you go through this period of confusion, let’s see if you suddenly don’t like your girlfriend, or is it because Blinded by his own bad emotions. It's not easy to find someone who suits you, but everyone has the right to choose. But generally speaking, you need to make yourself stronger first.
Finally, people tend to do some irrational things when they are at a low point. Maybe when the pressure on you at work eases, you will decide that the things that bothered you at the beginning are not worth mentioning, so, It's better to find a way to relieve the stress yourself first. It may not be your girlfriend's problem.
