How to comfort people? To achieve good results, many of our friends don’t know how to do this. Many times when we comfort others, if we don’t pay attention, it can easily have negative effects, so when we comfort others Sometimes, you must think carefully before speaking. Today, the editor has brought you the 4 most hurtful words to comfort people. Come and take a look. Have you ever said these words in your daily life?
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1. "I completely understand how you feel, because I have experienced it too."
Think about it, if you are hurt and hear a friend comfort you like this, what will you do? Feeling? You feel like, oh, my wounds are not worth mentioning, she has already been through them. She's doing so well now and I'm still crying, I'm making a fuss out of a molehill.
This kind of comfort is obviously not from the other person's perspective, but from one's own perspective.
2. "The luck of the misfortune, maybe it will be worse?"
If someone loses an arm in an accident, you say this to her, There were no big problems in the first half. But the phrase "it could be worse" sounds like a "curse".
You may say, I don’t mean this at all. But if you say it, it will be hard for those who hear it.
3. "There is no way, this is the reality, you should think in a better direction."
In fact, everyone has the ability to heal themselves, but it takes time to transition. When people feel uncomfortable at the moment, they often fall into an inherent emotion and cannot get out.
At this time, you say: "Let's think in a good direction." This sentence will make people think, "It's my own problem, I am emotionally bad." You will fall into into deeper displeasure.
4. "Don't you think it's time to move on?"
This sentence obviously contains a kind of "negative".
Rationally speaking, of course it is better to recover as soon as possible, forget the past, and move forward. However, people are not completely rational. Complete rationality is also scary.
Everyone has emotional moments. When emotions are there, accepting them is the best way. If you deny the emotion and avoid it, the emotion will not only not disappear, but will deepen.
So, if you have a friend who needs comfort, never say four sentences. Sometimes, if we sit quietly with her for a while, or help her clean up the housework, she may feel much better.
