Quarrels between male and female friends are a common problem in relationships, but how to control emotions and effectively resolve disputes is the key to maintaining a healthy relationship. Here are some effective ways to help boyfriends and girlfriends control their emotions when they quarrel.
1. Think calmly
When a dispute occurs, the first thing to do is to stay calm. Being emotional will only worsen the situation and fail to achieve the purpose of solving the problem. Therefore, when quarreling, both parties should try to avoid saying hurtful words or taking drastic actions, but stop and think calmly.
You can try asking yourself some questions, such as: "Why am I so angry?", "What may be the reasons for the other party's behavior?", "How can I change the situation?" and so on. By thinking calmly, you can better understand the other party's position and feelings and find ways to solve the problem.
2. Listen to each other
When arguing, it’s easy to get stuck in a cycle of blaming and complaining. However, this will only aggravate the conflict and prevent the problem from being resolved. Therefore, it is very important to listen to the other person.
We should try to be patient and not interrupt the other person when they are expressing their opinions and feelings. By listening, we can better understand each other's position and needs, and thus find solutions to problems.
3. Control emotions
During a quarrel, emotions can easily get out of control. However, losing control of your emotions will only worsen the situation and fail to achieve the purpose of solving the problem. Therefore, we need to learn to control our emotions.
You can try taking a few deep breaths to relieve tension, or temporarily leave the argumentative environment and give yourself some time to calm down. At the same time, you can also try to divert your attention and do some relaxing activities, such as walking, listening to music, etc.
4. Seek compromise
In a quarrel, both parties have their own opinions and needs. In order to solve problems, it is necessary to seek compromise.
You can try to communicate with the other party and work together to find a solution that can meet the needs of both parties and solve the problem. In the process of finding a compromise, both parties need to make some concessions in order to reach a settlement.
5. Seek third-party help
If the quarrel cannot be resolved through the parties' own efforts, you can consider seeking third-party help.
You can find a fair and objective person to serve as a mediator to help both parties clarify the problems and provide some suggestions and solutions. This will prevent further escalation of disputes and allow for better resolution of issues.
When boyfriends and girlfriends quarrel, it is effective to stay calm and think, listen to each other, control emotions, seek compromise, and seek help from a third party. Through these methods, we can better handle disputes and maintain healthy relationships.
