Question: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for seven years, and I am currently considering getting married. My girlfriend suddenly asked me to hand over all my money, saying that she just wanted to test me to see if I am willing to give everything for her. How should I answer? ?
In fact, similar scenes have happened before. Every time I take out my mobile phone to see how much money I have, and tell her how much money I can give her except for stock funds that cannot be liquidated temporarily. It is also practical. Transferred tens of thousands several times. Soon she stopped me and gave me the money back.
Today I also thought about it carefully and felt that I can honestly say that I am actually unwilling to do this, but if you really need it, I am willing to give you all the money I can convert into cash ( I'm actually using my mobile phone to calculate how much I can cash out. It's actually not much, only a few hundred thousand). Can you tell me why you do this?
But after I said this, she thought that I couldn’t give her my all, and now she started to get cold-blooded and angry with me. What should I do?
What should I do if my girlfriend wants me to pay money before marriage?
Answer: After reading your question, My biggest feeling is: You have been tricked for so long, and you only realized something was wrong today? Let me tell you bit by bit: What is wrong with this relationship.
First of all, this is not the first time that your girlfriend wants to pay money. You have actually done it more than once before. Don’t you think something is wrong at this time? Why would a person who is in a normal relationship ask the other person to make money for him again and again?
Secondly, what surprises me even more is: when the other party asks you for almost all of your net worth, you are really counting how much money it is. In other words: if the other party gives you a reason at this time, you may really switch - the reason why you didn't do it is simply because the other party has no reason.
Let me ask you: If this person told you that he had something urgent recently and needed money, would you Really give it to her? I can tell you very clearly: Even if this person really encounters some emergency or difficulty, you can't give it all to her! When a person needs money, his own savings are not enough, and his family cannot help, so they all find it in their partner - are you really sure you can fill this hole?
You are really undefended at all. I know why such an outrageous thing happened to you, but now you are still reflecting on your own problems.
I have always felt that no one who starts asking you for money frequently when you are in a relationship is reliable. A person who really cares about you must feel sorry for you and feel that it is not easy for you to make money, so he often does not care about your property. But if a person is thinking about your money from the beginning, always thinking about turning your money into her money, then you'd better be careful: in her eyes, you are not her object at all, but a complete cash machine.
