Today, with the divorce rate rising steadily, many people still choose to try their luck and rush to start a marriage. But marriage is not a child's play, and I believe that everyone does not get married for the purpose of divorce. Marriage carefully is not only responsible for yourself, but also for others. So if you want to make your marriage last longer, please consider these 4 questions before getting married:
1: Before getting married, have you made a practical commitment to each other?
If you want a happy marriage, love alone is not enough. Complete love should be composed of three parts: intimacy, passion, and commitment. .
Before marriage, people will ignore the importance of commitment because of intimacy and passion.
As a result, after getting married, when the romance of love falls into the trivialities of life, you become overwhelmed, feel that this is not your ideal marriage, and start to complain that the other party cannot give you happiness.
Promise does not mean that you guarantee that you can love him or her for the rest of your life.
Instead, set an attainable goal for your future. Marriage requires romance and the joint efforts of two people.
When you have the same goal, your relationship will not be easily diluted by trivial matters in life.
Two: Before getting married, did you know each other’s family of origin?
Everyone has more or less Most of you will be influenced by your family of origin. You will always be more like your parents than you think.
The way each other’s parents get along with each other also reflects to a large extent what your relationship will be like after marriage.
Couples whose native families are harmonious have a much lower probability of cheating on each other, domestic violence, and indifference after marriage than couples whose native families are unhappy.
And many problems that are not discovered and exposed in love may also show up in their relationship with their parents.
3: What do you think about housework?
Housework is very small in marriage , but it is also one of the factors that most affects a couple’s relationship.
Therefore, you must reach an agreement before marriage to reasonably allocate housework and divide your respective roles according to each other's personalities and preferences.
Maybe some people will say that I never did housework before getting married, but you have to understand that marriage is for two people.
Of course, housework is also for two people. Just like riding a bicycle, only by stepping on the left and right feet together can you go further.
Four: Your goldAre the concept of money and consumption consistent?
Many couples feel that "talking about money hurts feelings." In fact, talking about money properly will not only not hurt feelings, but also promote the development of each other's feelings.
Because compared to the three views, the view of money is more likely to cause quarrels and conflicts. Money is not everything about marriage, but it is the foundation of marriage.
So you must pay attention to the money problems caused by the relationship before getting married. This is not just about being poor or stingy.
Rather, these problems often reflect a person’s attitude towards life. People who are stingy about money and care about money will not be too big. People who are too generous may also neglect their family because of their face. , resulting in the absence of family roles.
