I live at the head of the Yangtze River, and you live at the end of the Yangtze River; when will the water stop? When was this hatred? I only hope that your heart will be like mine, and I will live up to my love.
Long-distance relationships are not easy. I once heard this sentence: The most powerless thing is that I can't take care of you when you are sick, and I can't hold you when you are tired. Only those who have experienced this feeling of powerlessness can understand how sad it is. Many couples in long-distance relationships cannot get care and comfort from each other because they are too far apart. If you trust again, you will eventually break up. So what should couples who live in different places do to prevent love from being defeated by reality and distance?
1. Add a sense of ritual to life
Zhang Han and Mingyu are in a long-distance relationship. They met in college. Mingyu stayed in Beijing after graduation. Zhang Han's mother asked her to go back to her hometown to find a job. Zhang Han insisted that her mother could only go home. However, although she and Mingyu became a long-distance relationship, they also quarreled. Fortunately, they persisted. Zhang Han and Mingyu say good morning and night to each other every day, take photos of each other when eating every day, and share every beautiful scene they see with each other. A small gift prepared by myself. These actions may seem simple, but they are not easy to stick to. Although the two do not live together, daily contact will make them feel each other's presence and not feel lonely.
Life must have a sense of ritual, so that we will force ourselves to comply. This is very important in a long-distance relationship because the two often don't see each other. If there are no certain rules to restrain each other, it will only alienate the two people. Of course, you should set it according to your own situation, and you can't set something that is difficult to do by yourself. Not only will this not improve relationships, it will increase conflicts.
2. Increase mutual trust
Zhang Han once had a friend’s birthday. We hadn’t gotten together for a long time, and we didn’t go home until very late after playing together. After several calls and messages, she hurriedly dialed Mingyu's number. Not only was Mingyu not angry, but he also didn't question why she came home so late. Instead, he comforted her because she had been tired for a long day. The little girl in her family thought that Mingyu didn't care about her, otherwise why didn't he ask her. Mingyu said that because she knew Zhang Han was going to celebrate her friend's birthday, she knew what kind of person Zhang Han was. I believed her and believed their relationship was strong. The most basic thing in love is trust. When something happens, you will be paranoid and suspicious of the other person, which will only hurt the other person.
Everyone has their own life, so couples should also leave some space for each other. Not only can you attract the other person in the relationship, but you can also reduce your own possessiveness so that you don't put too much pressure on the other person. Couples in a long-distance relationship must have confidence in your relationship and your significant other, and don't let your suspicions ruin your relationship. Couples who live in long-distance places must tell each other clearly what is going on, so as to prevent each other from overthinking, and they must promptly meet the person they pursue.Speak clearly and resolve any conflicts that may cause trouble for you.
3. Looking forward to the joy of the future
When Zhang Han and Mingyu chat, they often fantasize about something Things to come. Once, they thought about what their future home would be like. They described it this way, they felt that their future home was waiting for them. In the next few days, Zhang Han received an envelope from Mingyu. On the envelope was our home, with photos of everything they described that day. Zhang Han was very moved at that moment and decided that Mingyu was the person she could trust for the rest of her life. Thinking about the future together can give you both hope for the future and know that she is included in your future plans.
The biggest fear in a long-distance relationship is that there is no future, so be sure to let the other person know clearly that she is in your future plans. When chatting, you can talk about your vision for the future. It is best for boys to have clear plans and goals, which can make girls feel more at ease. In the process of looking forward to the future, it will also enhance the relationship between you. Get to know you and plan for the future so you can work harder.
Emotional message: Couples in a long-distance relationship should have confidence in their own love and believe that the other person can eventually give you the love you want. For a very envious couple, you won't have too many negative emotions because you know that the other person is working hard for your future life.
Long-distance relationships are not entirely a bad thing. Only when we meet again after a long separation will we cherish it. The joy of each reunion is something that other couples cannot experience. Moreover, couples in long-distance relationships are quickly becoming stronger, because when they encounter difficulties or challenges, the other party is not around, so they can only face them with strength, and they can also face difficulties and challenges. You will learn a lot. Think on the bright side in everything, and hope that all long-distance relationships will be successful and happy.
