In fact, whether they are couples who have been in love for many years or couples who have just been married, there will always be a state where they feel no sense of being together. Because the initial heartbeat has long since dissipated and the passion between the two people has long since disappeared, this is actually normal. The key lies in how you will deal with it later. Let me share with you what I should do if my girlfriend is very nice, but I don’t have feelings for her?
1. Self-Answer
In fact, love or marriage will experience the initial sweet love. In the end, marriage and love will become daily necessities. This is a normal process. When you are hesitating Before you give up on this relationship, you might as well ask yourself a few questions:
When you and your girlfriend first started dating, did you have any visions for the future? Your being together was a pure future. Are you pursuing excitement, or are you rushing to get married? If you just want to have fun, then you can leave when you see this. If you are rushing to get married with your girlfriend, then why have you been in a relationship for so long without getting married? But now I feel like I have no feelings and want to break up? Have you ever thought about how you will live in the future? Are you ready to take responsibility for your family?
If you consider yourself a man who wants to live a down-to-earth life, it is inevitable that your girlfriend is actually the best choice. If you are not convinced yet, it can only mean that you are not suitable for your girlfriend yet, and it is your problem, not your girlfriend's problem.
2. Love also has dull periods
Regardless of whether you have feelings for your girlfriend now, it is undeniable Yes, when you chose to be with your girlfriend, she must have attracted you in some way. But as time goes by, you will forget your former love, and love will ferment into family love over time.
However, apart from passion, the beauty of love is also many other things, which are not available in the initial stage of passionate love. For example, the intimacy and tacit understanding, complete trust, peace of mind and sense of solidity between you and your girlfriend. In a sense, these are the gifts of "love".
Passion is only temporary and cannot last long. Therefore, most people's relationships will go through a dull period, but when a relationship reaches a dull period, it does not mean that the love is gone, but that it is the rest period of love. If you let go of this relationship and start a new one, you will also experience this dull period later. Expect. Therefore, it is better to maintain this relationship well.
3. Give love some preservatives
If you feel you still don’t want to give up on this relationship, then Just give your love some preservative! Put some thought into making your interactions with each other more colorful and innovative, with more sense of ceremony and more surprises. Carefully discover the little beauties that you haven't noticed in your daily life ~ and you will feel a little bit more in love again.
Just like when I was young and married for three years, the twoPersonally, because of the daily necessities in marriage, life has gradually become less passionate. In addition, both of us are very busy and communicate less and less. Later, when several buddies gathered for dinner and exchanges, he realized what his problem was and began to slowly romance his wife. As for his wife, seeing how caring he was, she opened her heart to him, and the relationship between the two of them became more and more harmonious, returning to the sweet time before.
Summary: Two people are not together simply for the pursuit of excitement, but the feeling of love also needs to be cultivated. You also know that your girlfriend is very good. If you miss her, you may not meet such a good person again. Instead of regretting it later, it is better to find a way to maintain the relationship now.
