If you want to get true love, then you must have the awareness and ability to "respect yourself". Many people pursue true love hard, but in the end, they are either bruised and bruised, or they live awkwardly in a bad relationship. To put it harshly, most of them are the result of "disrespecting" themselves.
I know that saying this may make you think that I am particularly mean and heartless, but please read what I am going to say next and you can think carefully about whether it makes sense.
What conditions do men need to have true love?
1. Only by respecting yourself can you take the initiative
First of all, respecting yourself means that you really care about yourself. Choose to take the initiative, and you can consciously choose the person you like.
Many people say they want to find a partner or fall in love. To put it bluntly: I think there are quite a few people who don’t really want to.
Because there are quite a few people who have reached the age and are urged by their families, and then they start blind dates aimlessly and browse social software casually. The criteria for choosing a spouse are as simple as "treat me well and get along well." OK, suitable for marriage.”
Some people keep saying they want to find a true love or a soul mate, but when the weekend comes, they open their iPads and cover themselves with quilts, and stay at home for two days watching TV dramas without taking any action. No.
Why, the ideal partner can fall from the sky and land in your arms?
You yourself have never seriously thought about what kind of person you want to find, and you have not made enough efforts for this matter. Why do you think you can get true love?
In my eyes, leaving a decision that may affect the rest of your life to "family", "friends", or even illusory "fate" and "fate" is disrespectful to yourself. Behavior.
2. Only by respecting yourself can you realize your own value
Secondly, I think people who respect themselves, One can clearly understand one's own value and have a clear understanding of oneself.
There are quite a few people who are very eager and anxious when choosing a mate. I can understand this, but I don’t understand the approach of some people: just to "find a partner", they start the process. There are constant compromises and concessions.
In fact, I really don’t understand why some people can be so humble during the pursuit stage: your ultimate goal is to “find a suitable partner who is happy to get along with”, and it is not “as long as there is a partner, I will do it” Happy." Now you feel that you are already so tired in the pursuit stage. Isn’t this enough to dissuade you?
You are not together yet. It is a two-way choice. Why can't you reversely screen this person?
And I really think: people and peopleYou can feel each other's aura between them.
No matter how good the conditions of this person are, no matter how much this person likes you, as long as he feels your humbleness and your flattery from you at the beginning of the contact, then the relationship with this person will be worse in the future. They won't respect you either.
You must know that a healthy relationship, which is what we often call "true love", will not make you feel tired when you get along. Even if this person attracts you, if you are not happy getting along with him, he is not the right person.
Therefore, respect your own will and emotions. If you want to find a so-called "true love", then at least when you get along, you must learn to filter.
3. Only by respecting yourself can you stop losses in time
Finally, it is not easy to find the right partner. Many times we look at the wrong person or meet an inappropriate partner. So at this time, if you respect yourself enough, then you should learn to stop losses in time and end the wrong relationship.
Although what I said is a bit unpleasant, it is a fact: many people basically talk nonsense in their first relationship, because they let their emotions make the decision, so it is inevitable that there will be things they have not considered. place; the second relationship absorbs the lessons of the first relationship, but there may also be new situations that lead to the separation of the two people; basically, it is not until the third relationship that you can figure out what kind of person you are suitable for. Who to be with.
Of course, luckier people will fall in love less often than this; and there are still people who will fall in love far more often than this. But this is not the point. What I want to say is: if you want to meet a suitable person, then when you encounter an unsuitable relationship, you must learn to stop losses in time.
If you respect yourself enough, then you should not continue in a relationship that feels bad. Only by stopping your losses can you meet someone who is truly suitable for you.
