Many couples don’t keep their mouth shut when they quarrel. One person says, “It’s so annoying to fight like this every day. Let’s just get a divorce!” The other person says, “Just divorce, I’ve wanted to divorce you for a long time!”… Just In this way, what started as a quarrel over a trivial matter developed to the point of divorce. Of course it is unwise to make a hasty decision to divorce. What should a couple do if they quarrel and want a divorce? If a divorce is really caused by a quarrel, both parties may regret it.
1. Both parties calm down
In fact, in the state of quarrel, the emotions of both husband and wife are unstable. At this time, whether you are thinking about retaining the other party or adding fuel to the quarrel to promote divorce, the impulsive decision will make both parties regret it. Even if they reconcile in the future, it may leave a thorn in the relationship of both parties. Therefore, it is recommended that both husband and wife calm down at this time and analyze together the reasons why your quarrel developed into divorce. Whether your relationship has reached the point where you need divorce, or whether you were both too impulsive during the quarrel. After you calm down, you can calmly share your thoughts with the other person so that you can work together to solve the problems that exist between you.
2. Give each other space and time
After a couple quarrels, if you cannot calm down in a short time , you might as well give each other some time and space at this time, and think about your inner wishes separately, because blindly forcing the other party to make a decision at this time will only push the other party forward in the divorce process. It is difficult for people to accept uncertainty, which makes us full of anxiety. We would rather die happily than have a stone hanging above our head, never falling, but always worried about it falling.
So at this time, you have to endure it and be steady no matter what, otherwise the only evaluation you can get is "you will never change your stubbornness." The other party has been disappointed with you, but at least if you satisfy her with this last calm request, you still have a chance of survival. Maybe you won't get extra points for this, but at this juncture, you can no longer be deducted impression points.
3. Use multiple actions to show changes
If the couple still thinks they want a divorce after calm reflection , don’t be anxious, and don’t pester the other party, because after the other party calmly thinks about it, it’s useless for you to pester. You know that she only made the decision to divorce (accepted) when she really gave up. It is impossible to reverse the result immediately. But now you can still show respect for her choice and apologize to her for not caring enough in the past.
The advantage of doing this is that starting from this action, she has actually seen changes in your behavior, and she will be surprised by this. Because in her imagination, this divorce must be an entangled and painful process. If you lightly agree and even apologize gracefully, your position will change quickly at this moment.Reversed, it became like it was her fault.
Use actions to prove to her that you are different from before, which is much more convincing than saying "I promise" ten thousand times. Although it is unlikely that she will change her mind on the spot, from here on, your relationship will officially begin to move towards a virtuous circle.
What should a couple do if they quarrel and want a divorce? Don't rush yet, follow the above three steps and give each other a space to think seriously, then you will know whether you really want a divorce.
