Signs of marriage breakdown:
1. Habitually blaming or criticizing the other party, making the marriage full of arguments.
2. Criticizing the other person instead of expressing your feelings.
3. Don’t respect each other and fight each other whenever you find the opportunity.
4. Arguing over trivial matters and trying to defend yourself.
5. Indiscriminate.
6. Negative (even provocative) body language.
7 rules for repairing a couple's relationship
1. Perfect the love map between you and your wife.
2. Cultivate your love and praise for your wife.
3. Stay closer to each other rather than farther away.
4. Let your wife influence your decision.
5. Start with gentleness and end with compromise.
6. Learn to live in harmony with problems.
7. Create shared meaning.
5 details to maintain a marriage
When Gottman predicted whether a marriage would last, he found that Couples with lasting marriages spend an average of five hours more per week on maintaining their marriage than couples who don't. Let’s take a look at how they do it. You might as well try it:
1. Going out: When these couples go out in the morning, they will find something that both of them will do that day (2 minutes × 5 days = 10 minutes).
2. Going home: When returning from get off work every day, these couples have a very relaxed conversation (20 minutes × 5 days = 1 hour and 40 minutes).
3. Love: touching, hugging, kissing, these behaviors are full of tenderness and mutual understanding (5 minutes × 7 days = 35 minutes).
4. Date once a week: Two people find a relaxed environment to upgrade their love (2 hours a week).
5. Praise and appreciate: Praise and thank the other person at least once a day (5 minutes × 7 days = 35 minutes).
