Is it right not to divorce for the sake of

Many couples clearly have no feelings for each other at all, but for the sake of their children they still do not choose to divorce and live a married life in name only. This is the case for Xiao Liu.

The main theme is that sometimes, Xiao Liu's wife will file for divorce and ask him to get out, but he still wants to let his children have a complete family, and he cannot affect his children's life because of his own impulse.

In fact, many people are like Xiao Liu. No matter how bad their marriage is, they still choose not to divorce for the sake of their children, but this People often ignore these two problems:

1. A bad marriage life affects children more

Many people are from single-parent families, so they want to give their children a complete life. A family where children do not lack fatherly and motherly love.

Although forcibly not getting divorced can give the child a complete family, in fact, the impact of a bad marriage may be greater than that of a single-parent family.

For example, if a child sees that his own family is not harmonious from an early age, he will feel disgusted with his family and will not have a sense of belonging to his family, which will make him less close to the family. Getting lighter and lighter.

Even if your marriage is not happy, it will make him question love. He feels that love and marriage are represented by quarrels, accusations, and abuses, which will make him fear love.

Just imagine, the reason why some people are afraid of marriage or hate marriage is actually due to the influence of their original family.

Although divorce will cause the child to lose a complete family and make him a single-parent family, father's love and mother's love will not decrease. As long as you give him enough care, he will naturally get the corresponding affection. , of course, this is not to advise you to divorce, but you must understand that maintaining a quarrelsome marriage will do more harm than good to your children.

2. Blindly giving in is the other party’s capital to intensify their efforts

There are still some people who feel that although marriage appears, The problem is solved, but as long as you endure it long enough, you can make the other party change. However, this idea is actually just self-deception. Blindly giving in will only become the capital of the other party to intensify their efforts.

Because the other party knows that you cannot leave her for the sake of the child, no matter what the other party does, you will bear it silently. Then the other party will naturally become more unscrupulous and will not make changes because of you.

So if you really can’t make up your mind to divorce, then don’t always give in blindly.Even if you don't get a divorce, you still have to resist. To keep yourself independent, you have to prove that you are valuable. The reason why the other party was very good to you is because the other party cannot control you and feels that you can leave yourself at any time.

Now you have to return to your previous state. When you regain such value, even if you get divorced, you can at least get custody of your children.

And when the other party sees that you have capital again and is no longer patient, they may also have a strong sense of crisis, restrain their emotions, and treat you well again. At this time, if you take the initiative to remain aloof, don't forgive the other person easily, let him try the taste of loss, and then he will know how to cherish you and know your importance.

Finally, you use your child again and gradually make him realize how much harm his actions have caused to the child and to you, making him feel guilty and guilty, and your emotional status. Only then can a transformation occur, allowing you to take the initiative in this marriage.

In fact, when faced with a bad marriage life, you must not give up your future because of your children. Marriage life can really develop. When it reaches the point of no return, then you should stop persisting and giving up is the best option.

But if there is still a chance to save it, then you must find ways to improve your marital status, because marriage is never about two people, but about three families.


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