After many boys finally get together with a girl, because the process of getting her is too difficult, they will easily have a love mentality of worrying about gains and losses, which will cause pressure on girls, and they may even plan to break up with you. So what should a boy do if he has a love mentality of worrying about gains and losses after being with a girl?
1. Analyze the reasons for worrying about gains and losses
Generally speaking, boys who are prone to worrying about gains and losses in love generally have two situations:
1. Girls are in better condition than you. Too strong;
2. You are a standard pleaser personality.
Before boys want to solve the problem of worrying about gains and losses, they must first ask themselves which situation they belong to. Recall your previous love experiences. If you only feel worried about gains and losses when you are only towards a certain person who is really good, then it means that the other person is really good. If you feel this way every time you fall in love, please review your personality. It is most likely that you have a pleaser personality. Next, we will analyze how to solve it specifically.
2. What to do if you worry about gains and losses in love
If you worry about gains and losses because the girl is too good, Then, try to get closer to her and try to become better yourself. Good love must be evenly matched, and the love between a princess and a commoner ultimately proved difficult to be happy. If you can't reach the height of a girl after your whole life's efforts, then I may have to advise you to give up. After all, the tragedy of the Samsung Princess is really happening.
If you worry about gains and losses in love because of a please-pleaser personality, it means that the value you have for yourself is worthless to you. In fact, in any romantic relationship, from the perspective of value, both parties must be in a reciprocal transaction. In fact, every pair of people in love weighs their overall strength and believes that the other person is worthy of them, and then they form a love relationship. When you worry about gains and losses in love, it is actually when you depreciate yourself. You can obviously be on an equal footing with the other person, and you are not inferior in any way, but you are just inferior to others in front of girls, and you have repeatedly lowered your bottom line in order to retain the other person. Over time, girls will get used to this kind of humility, and when you can't stand it anymore, the female driver will think that you have changed. In fact, it's not that you have changed, but that you want to be your true self.
Therefore, if a boy with a please personality wants to have a long-term relationship, it is best to be able to face it calmly from the beginning. To myself. Even if the girl can't accept it, you still have a chance to find the right person after the breakup. The most terrible thing is that on the day you lose, you have spent too much time and are no longer young and competitive. It may be too late to regret it by then.
