Long-distance relationships are like two people running blindly. Sometimes when you open your eyes, you realize that the person next to you has already left. Relationships require two people to manage and persevere well. If you persevere until the end, you will surely reap rich fruits. Only by conquering difficult challenges can you gain deep pleasure! Although language is a bridge that opens the soul, physical touch is the chicken soup that sublimates feelings! Therefore, the key to long-distance relationships is how often they meet.
Why do long-distance relationships need to meet?
What supports long-distance relationships in maintaining relationships is daily chatting and communication, but language It is just one of the ways for human beings to express their emotions. Without action, the expression of human emotions will be suppressed. This is why people need to sing and dance!
The feelings of long-distance love span time and space, and they also need to go back to time and space. Relying on words to express feelings for a long time will either make people feel boring, or make people eager to meet! Not meeting in long-distance relationships means laying hidden dangers for breakup, and it is a hidden danger that must not be tolerated in maintaining a relationship.
Obstacles for meeting in long-distance relationships
In long-distance relationships, one party may be a student and the other an office worker, spending free time The intersection will make it difficult for two people to meet. In a long-distance relationship, one party may be in Chengdu and the other in Thailand. The journey is long and arduous, and it takes half a year of savings to meet once. Such a meeting is too difficult!
As the saying goes, the only person who really hinders you is yourself. You can't do it because you don't have the ability to do it, and you haven't tried to master this ability. If you don’t have time, can you ask for leave? If you don’t have money, can you work hard to earn it? Therefore, the obstacles to meeting in a long-distance relationship are all due to your own weak will to meet.
The frequency of meeting in long-distance relationships
Some people think that the frequency of long-distance relationships should be in person. Find the other person when the time comes. Xiaoyu believes that this concept is wrong. Psychologically speaking, fixing a certain frequency of meeting will make people develop habits. Since people are dependent on habits, they will establish a stable love relationship. This is teasing. A variation of the "Pavlovian method of picking up girls" in the girl routine.
On the other hand, long-distance lovers should not only fix the frequency of meeting, but also appropriately reduce the frequency of meeting to a certain critical value. This will make both parties have a "sense of loss". Only when they experience "loss" can they learn to cherish it and thus keep love fresh, Christopher
Nolan's "Following" talks about this psychology: If we don't take these things away, they won't realize what they once had!