Arguing is a common problem in relationships, especially after a long period of time together. How should we effectively deal with a serious argument with our girlfriend? Here are some methods and suggestions.
1. Calm down
In moments of quarrel, emotions often get out of control. In order to effectively handle an argument, you need to calm down first. You can calm yourself temporarily by taking deep breaths, counting, or walking away from the scene. Doing so can help you avoid emotional words and actions and better think about solutions to problems.
2. Listen to the other person
After calming down, it is very important to listen to the other person’s views and feelings. Give the other person enough space and time to express their thoughts and listen sincerely. Don't interrupt the other person or try to argue or retort. Only by truly understanding the other party's position and emotions can we find a solution to the problem.
3. Express yourself
After listening to the other person, it is our turn to express our opinions and feelings. However, pay attention to the manner and tone when expressing. Avoid using offensive words or blaming the other person. Instead, focus on "me" and express your feelings and needs. For example, "I feel hurt because I feel like you don't respect my opinion." Such an expression is more likely to be accepted and understood.
4. Look for common ground
In quarrels, we often only see differences and conflicts, but ignore the common ground. Finding common ground can help ease tensions and provide a basis for problem-solving. You can try to find facts or opinions that both parties agree on and focus on those commonalities. Doing so reduces antagonism and hostility and promotes cooperation and communication.
5. Find the solution
The ultimate goal is to find a solution to the problem. Through collaboration and discussion, find solutions acceptable to both parties. Different suggestions can be tried and trade-offs and compromises can be made. The important thing is to keep an open mind, be willing to listen to the other person's views, and look for win-win results.
6. Learn to apologize and forgive
After a quarrel, if you find that you have made a mistake or offended the other party, you must learn to apologize. Apologize sincerely to the other person and admit your fault. At the same time, we must also learn to forgive each other's mistakes. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but choosing to release the resentment and anger in your heart so that the relationship can move on.
When you have a serious argument with your girlfriend, calming down, listening to the other person, expressing yourself, finding common ground, finding solutions, and learning to apologize and forgive are the keys to effectively handling the argument. Through these methods, we can better handle quarrels with our girlfriends and promote the healthy development of the relationship.
