Long-distance relationships are often very difficult to succeed because of the obstacle of distance. However, compared with ordinary relationships, if a long-distance relationship can be cultivated, the relationship will be very stable. So how can a long-distance relationship be cultivated into a positive relationship? ?
Below, the editor will take you to understand the 3 signs before a long-distance relationship breaks up, and help you prevent breakup in advance.
1. It is easy for both parties to have a cold war
In the process of a long-distance relationship, if you find that the relationship between you If a cold war occurs at every turn, this may be a sign that you are about to break up.
It may be due to face, or it may be out of anger. If you don't contact the other party, the other party won't contact you either. If the stalemate continues, it will actually kill your relationship.
Therefore, at this time, we must find ways to resolve these contradictions and conflicts as soon as possible, and we cannot turn a blind eye to these problems in relationships.
To solve this problem, I recommend that everyone learn to give each other a step down and communicate proactively.
For example, if you have a disagreement over a small matter, and you originally contacted each other every day, but suddenly you stopped contacting one day, and there are signs of a cold war, then at this time you should take the initiative to step down from the other side as soon as possible. :
The first step is not to bring up the things that originally caused your disagreement. Instead, talk about other things first, such as about her work, and try to care about the other person.
The second step is to give the other party a step after they reply.
This is how you do it. Don’t let such little things be buried in your hearts, accumulating so many things. , there will be more and more cold wars, the relationship will become colder and colder, and it will be easy to break up slowly. In addition, different concepts will not only make it easy to break up in a long-distance relationship, but even if the relationship is not long-distance, if the concept is too different and the other party does not understand the other party and does not take the initiative to communicate, it can easily accumulate and become a hidden danger of breakup.
2. Both parties will have more and more misunderstandings
In a long-distance relationship, when both parties begin to suspect each other and Test, for example, maybe she just went to play with her best friends, and her phone was turned off during the period. In addition, she has been a little cold towards you recently. At this time, it is easy for you to misunderstand the other person and think that she went to play with other boys. In fact, it is a sign before breaking up.
Therefore, when misunderstandings occur in long-distance relationships, we must clarify them in time, because sometimes it is not just you who misunderstands the other party, but the other party may also misunderstand you.
Although the starting point of such misunderstanding is love, this kind of love is a kind of distrust, a desire for control, and a challenge to the bottom line of your love. If you don't pay attention to it at the beginning and think that some trivial misunderstandings don't matter, over time, these seemingly insignificant misunderstandings will lead to big mistakes.Mistakenly, they became extremely distrustful of each other.
You know, when facing someone you don’t trust, or someone who doesn’t trust you, it will be difficult for her to believe you in whatever you say or do. So don’t take it lightly and pay great attention to it.
For example:
For example, when you are in a long-distance relationship, because you are busy and your girlfriend contacts you, you If you don’t reply in time, if you don’t answer your phone calls, if you don’t take care of her emotions immediately afterwards, your girlfriend may ask you again, “What have you been doing?”
At this time, you may You will explain, "I was at work and very busy at that time, so I happened to not see it." After hearing your explanation, your girlfriend was still a little angry and felt that you did not take care of her emotions. Although you explained, she was still in a state of emotion. Among them, it is very likely that even after listening to your explanation, she will say "I don't believe it, forget it."
If you want to solve this problem, you must be patient and tell her once and for all that you It's true that I was busy with work and didn't pay attention. I hope she won't be angry. At this time, you have to coax your girlfriend, and she will naturally believe you. And don't just reply "I don't believe you" just because you don't care when your girlfriend says "forget it". In this case, the seeds of distrust will be quietly planted, and gradually more distrust will erupt between the two parties. Later, she will not want to tell you many things. Gradually, you will not trust her, and she will not trust her either. You, it will be difficult to support your feelings.
Speaking of this, you may say, isn’t this indulging your girlfriend? In fact, it is not indulging. Sometimes tactical weakness in the relationship is a good way to keep the love fresh for a long time. In addition, the relationship will be good after When I talk about things like this, I communicate with my girlfriend peacefully, hoping that she can behave better. At this time, my girlfriend will realize her problem after listening to it, and it will not be like this again.
Therefore, love also needs to be managed. Some emotional problems are actually very small problems and are completely solvable. Don't make yourself regret it because of impulse.
3. Can’t chat together
The most obvious sign before a long-distance relationship is about to break up is often It's when two people can't always talk together and they lack a common language.
The reason why this problem occurs is that long-distance relationships often make it easy for one party to not be in the other's life. The two parties have no tacit understanding and points of intersection, and only the usual exchanges of greetings and warmth are left. Good morning and good night.
To avoid this problem, the most important thing is to integrate into the other person's life, understand the other person's inner thoughts, establish points of intersection between the two parties, and even plan your future plans so that each of you can integrate into each other. , there are common things to do, common opinions can be expressed, and we can work together for the future.Let's work together and do these things well. Even if it is a long-distance relationship, there will actually be no topics to talk about and no time to talk together.
