In a relationship, quarrels are inevitable. Especially for second-married girlfriends, they may be more sensitive and easily hurt because of past experiences. Therefore, as boyfriends, we need to learn how to coax our second-married girlfriends and resolve quarrels.
1. Listen and understand
When your second-married girlfriend is angry or unhappy, the first thing to do is to listen to her complaints and dissatisfaction. Don't interrupt her or try to defend or explain. Just listen quietly and express that you understand how she feels. Doing this will make her feel respected and cared for.
For example, when she complains about the pressure at work, you can say: "I understand that you are very tired now. Work is indeed very stressful." Thank you. I support you and if there is anything I can do to help, please let me know." In this way, you convey to her that you understand and support her feelings.
2. Express apology
When you realize your mistake or the reason for the quarrel, it is very important to apologize to your second girlfriend in time. Don't wait until she's angry or sad to apologize, but express your apology as soon as she's calmed down.
For example, if you ignored her feelings because you were busy at work, you could say: "Dear, I'm really sorry for not noticing your emotions. I know it made you feel ignored. , I will try my best to make it right.” By sincerely apologizing to her, you convey that you value her feelings and are willing to change.
3. Provide a sense of security
The second-married girlfriend may have certain reservations about relationships because of past experiences. Therefore, it is very important to give her a sense of security after a fight. Tell her that your relationship is strong and reliable and that you will always have her back.
For example, when she is worried that the conflict between you will lead to a breakup, you can say: "Honey, just because we have a quarrel does not mean that we are going to separate. I believe that we can overcome the difficulties together." , our relationship is unbreakable.” By saying this, you convey to her your confidence and commitment to the stability of their relationship.
4. Find solutions
After a quarrel, don’t just stop at apologizing and comforting, but actively look for ways to solve the problem. Discuss the problems with your second girlfriend and work out solutions together.
For example, if you are arguing about an uneven division of household chores, you can propose: "We can create a household plan that everyone Take charge of your own part. This can reduce the conflicts between us." By suggesting this, you convey to her that you are willing to work with her to solve the problem.
5. Give time and space
Sometimes, when your second-married girlfriend is depressed or angry, she may needSome time and space to calm down. Respect her feelings and give her the time and space she needs.
For example, when she says she needs some time alone, you can say, "Okay, I understand you need some time to calm down right now. I'll come back when you need me." By responding like this, you convey to her that you respect and support her feelings.
6. Prove it with actions
The most important thing is not just to stop at verbal apologies and promises, but to prove your sincerity through actions. Taking action can make your second-married girlfriend believe in your changes even more.
For example, if you promise to help her with the housework, do it and take the responsibility. By doing this, you convey to her that you acknowledge and respect her feelings.
To coax your second-married girlfriend, you need to listen and understand, express apology, provide a sense of security, find solutions, give time and space, and prove it with actions. Only in these ways can we resolve quarrels and build a strong and happy relationship.
