How open is an open relationship?
What we are going to discuss today is Open Relationship, which translates into Chinese as open relationship. It is a non-monogamous intimate relationship in which both parties (or even multiple parties) agree to participate in the relationship.
That is to say, in an open relationship, both parties in the relationship may have one or more long-term or short-term relationships at the same time. companion. This partnership may take the form of a short-term date, a long-term marriage, etc. It should be noted that we raise this issue for discussion only and do not advocate an attitude. After all, this is a relatively extreme and niche form, and I believe our current understanding of it is too limited to draw any conclusions.
Open Relationship was first proposed in the United States in 1970. At present, some people in Western countries have recognized and begun to practice and try this kind of relationship. According to statistics in the United States in recent years, about 5% of people are or have tried open relationships, and 40% of men and 25% of women believe that they would be willing to try to open a relationship if there was no social and cultural pressure.
Corresponding to the softening of attitudes toward open relationships is a shift in attitudes toward marriage.
Take Japan as an example. In 1993, 45% of people believed that "marriage is inevitable" and 51% believed that "it is okay not to get married." "Marriage is necessary" dropped to 33%, while those who said "it's okay not to get married" rose to 63%. Of course, China's national conditions may be relatively conservative. But we must admit that marriage, one-to-one - a relatively stable relationship Contractual relationships may face more challenges in the future. More and more people will rethink the value and meaning of marriage, and new types of partnerships are also being born.
Differences: open relationships, polyamorous relationships. Love, FWB, Swapping
Open Relationship emphasizes that both parties in the relationship open their information and ideas to each other without reservation. From a sexual perspective, they do not agree with monogamy. and the exclusivity of the romantic relationship, regardless of whether they require absolute sexual fidelity from their partner.
Polyamory refers to having sexual relationships with other people. An open relationship is still a stable and intimate relationship between two people, but each of them can have some other relationships outside of them, but other people are not involved in the relationship. . In a mutual relationship.
Friends with Benefits (FWB) are friends who can help each other with physical problems.
Swing is a type of exchange of partners with other partners.
Why people.Do we choose an open relationship?
According to research statistics, here are some reasons why people choose open relationships:
1. Both parties feel their "nature", while others feel their hormones or personal experiences Preventing them from focusing on the same partner for a long time
2. One partner finds that he cannot meet the needs of the other partner
3. Both parties want more freedom and more Diverse relationships
4. Some people do not trust their partner’s maturity enough, so they hope to use an open relationship to try challenges and feel their own jealousy, attachment, possessiveness, etc., thinking that they will gain Higher Self. Understand and further develop the relationship
5. Instead of hiding it from the other party, it is better for both parties to agree and communicate to achieve a win-win model
6. I think an open relationship is more economical Partner Model
7. Solutions to long-distance or long-distance relationships
What does it feel like to be in an open relationship?
“People always thought we were going to break up, but we had an open relationship for seven years.”
“I listened to him He said he was not alone, so I have been curious about his specific situation. We have been sending text messages these days. Finally, I asked him who lives with you? He told me honestly that he has a wife and they are all open. relationships supporter, his wife has a boyfriend, he is very straightforward and doesn't hide when it started, but when we talk about our future, we both think that we should not tie and limit each other. We do talk about it a lot. What the nature of a relationship should be, and we're also going to talk about what we think about some new forms of relationships, and I think that might be the beginning of our idea of ??trying out open relationships."
"The only rules we have to follow in an open relationship are absolute honesty and getting tested for STIs before having sex. If I have another boyfriend in the future. , and he will abide by this rule."
"Some people think that open relationships are synonymous with promiscuity and promiscuity, while others think that if you share a partner with someone, it means you can only. Getting an incomplete partner, that's not the case, I feel as if we are more than one friend, we are loyal and honest to each other."
"I am now in an open relationship with the person I love. I feel like a good person, and I feel a sense of freedom from myself, which is especially important to me as a divorcee who feels able to enjoy and explore life again."
Survey shows. % of men and 40% of women have cheated on someone in a one-to-one relationship.People who support open relationships believe that instead of cheating and hiding, it's better to hurt each other or forcefully suppress one's desires and problems, rather than honestly and openly discussing what people can do to achieve harmony in their intimate relationships.
It must be emphasized that we very much do not want this article to be distorted
An open relationship is not an unprincipled instinctive behavior, it is based on the informed and voluntary basis of both parties Yes, both parties must have a full understanding of the desired relationship and reach a consensus. The parties involved must feel that this relationship can really meet their own needs, not just the needs of the other party. Anyone who accepts both sides of the relationship in order to be with their lover is not an open relationship.
If you are serious about giving an open relationship a try, here are 10 principles and suggestions:
1. Consider whether your situation is stable. Open relationships can bring about intense emotional ups and downs, and we do not recommend this relationship for people with unstable personalities or anxious or depressed moods.
2. When starting an open relationship, it is inevitable to face jealousy and envy. Be prepared.
3. You must communicate, communicate, and communicate openly and honestly with everyone involved in the relationship.
4. Pay attention to the details and depth of the discussion. An open relationship requires a certain degree of flexibility, so for some special behaviors, be sure to discuss in detail what is acceptable, what is the bottom line, and what is unacceptable. .
5. Pay attention to the partners of open relationships. Colleagues and friends may not be the best choices.
6. Have an equal relationship. If you can do something, your partner should be able to do it too.
7. It is not necessary to let everyone know, but you can tell some friends. On the one hand you need some social support, but on the other hand you don’t want to keep getting text messages saying “your partner was intimate with a stranger today” right?
8. Be patient. The harmony of any relationship is a long process. Don't regard an open relationship as a life-saving straw for your previous relationship that is about to break up.
9. You have an obligation to warn and explain to those who are about to enter your open relationship. If you can't tell the person you like that you're in an open relationship, it's recommended that you don't start an open relationship at all.
10. Finally, since you have chosen, it depends on whether you can enjoy it.
