Being together is a process that two people must go through. Some people will get separated due to misunderstandings or other external factors, but what I hope more is that if we meet and get together, we can make it to the end. In this way, everyone's efforts for each other are not in vain. Today we will take a look at several processes that couples must go through, hoping to help you.
Romantic period
The romantic period is the most exciting moment in a relationship, full of uncertainty and possibility. sex. At this time, the partners do not know each other well, have many expectations and imaginations about each other, and have great enthusiasm and vitality for the relationship. But the relationship is based on the images people project onto each other, their own ideas of their ideal partner. Therefore, in the romantic stage, all people have in the relationship is an image. Although there is a high sense of excitement, once the other qualities of the individual are expressed, it is very likely to be disappointed.
Power struggle period
During this period, in order to make your partner meet your own expectations, you will start to want to change the other person and encourage the other person's behavior to satisfy your own imagination. If the other party insists on being the same, romantic expectations will be frustrated, conflict will arise, and you will want to control the other party to achieve the ideal image in your heart.
The struggle for power itself is not a problem. The problem is that one or both parties think that they can control the behavior of others for granted. If both parties can let go of their supposed dominance, genuine sharing and intimacy are possible. If not, both partners may choose to give up and end the relationship.
Stability (integration) period
After partners experience the confusion of the romantic period and the conflicts of the power struggle period, the relationship between the two will become more flexible and stable. When partners enter the stable (integration) period, they will really start to be curious, want to understand each other, ask and listen to each other, and replace resistance with acceptance. Through the four communication modes of awareness, recognition, acceptance, and action, partners learn to understand each other, promote self-development, and strengthen their relationship.
Commitment period
Partners in the commitment period know each other very well and are willing to communicate their thoughts and feelings with each other. Invest in their own lives together. It is precisely because of complete understanding that committed partners are ready to make a complete commitment and commit to each other's free choice. This is not a commitment to the other party, but a firm commitment to yourself and your own life. In this process, both partners are willing to share a choice and act on it together.
Co-creation period
When reaching the stable (integration) period and the commitment period, partners have a deeper understanding of themselves and each other, know their strengths and weaknesses, and expect with dreams. due toThe trust committed by both parties can lead to sincere cooperation. For example: stingy people can keep accounts, and controlling people can make plans and arrange itineraries. Some personality traits can be actively created in this way to promote the harmony of relationships and the completion of joint plans.
Finally, I would like to say that after finally meeting each other, don’t let go easily. As long as it is not a matter of principle, it can be solved. I wish you happiness in front of the screen for a long time. come on.
